He's Just Not That into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (2004, Hardcover)

A good friend of mine recommended this book to me over two years ago... a MALE friend!

I was dating a guy who never called me, would email maybe once a week or two and even though he lives just 20 miles from me, he seldom came to see me. He was always full of lame excuses and apologies. (he was busy with work, busy with school, not feeling well, bad traffic out, blah, blah, blah) I would hang on because when we were together he was extremely attentive, looked at me as if no other women existed and made me feel wonderful, then he would leave... and just be gone.

My friend told me I really needed to read this book and boy, was he right. I wish now I had not wasted two long years before doing so. This book has made a huge difference in my way of thinking and in my choices concerning men I meet and date. After reading this book, I immediately was able to let go of someone who was "Just not that into me" and became available to someone who was. I am now happy and having a wonderful time with a man who IS into me! He calls me every day or two, we talk for hours at a time, we see each other almost every weekend and we live three times further apart then that loser and I.

Ladies, don't wait as long as I did. If a man doesn't call when he says he will, doesn't show up when he says he will, never shows any real interest in you when you are apart, never sends a card or brings you a flower... Read this book because, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU! (and I don't care how good the sex is, its just not worth the rest of his B.S.)

Entertaining book filled with good advice every woman needs to hear. I highly recommend this for every woman, young or old.

This book was co-written by one of the "Sex and the City" TV show writers (Greg Behrendt). Behrendt tries to pass himself off as an average guy writing from the point of view of other average guys, but the reality is he is a multi-millionaire big city dude who is probably much more attractive than the average guy. In the book, women are made out to always be innocent victims of the awfulness of men. Men who are not totally marriage-minded are made out to be worthless sickos who are not worth the time of any women. The book is full of dimestore psychology dispensed by unqualified individuals writing from a point of view of very heavy bias. The book is inherently sexist in that in portrays women as always being victims and men who do not follow a particular specific program as always being horrible - it reinforces gender stereotypes and ignores the fact that women treat men like garbage as much or more often as men treat women like garbage. The book is written from the point of view of an ultrasuccessful player type living in a city (New York) where there are purportedly 3 single women for every single man in the target market age group...not exactly an average or typical point of view and certainly not one you can put a lot of reliability or stock in. This book is a manipulative, dumbed-down, overly simplistic piece of garbage written for gullible, overly simplistic women who would rather villainize men than take responsibility for their poor dating decisions that are often the result of incredibly superficial criteria in choosing men.

I was one of those women who continually made excuses for the way certain men in my life treated me. And then I read this book, and one image stuck with me: that a man would rather be trampled by elephants on fire than to look you in the eye and tell you that you're not The One. He's just not that into you. And that's why he promises to call and then doesn't. Learning to read the signs, learning when to move on and keeping your self-esteem high in the face of rejection is the overall purpose here: don't waste the pretty. I think the authors do a good job of realistically assessing the dance between the sexes when it comes to that strange ritual we call dating, but from both the female and male perspectives. This book is briskly paced, reads very quickly and it is frequently funny. I thought the chapter on cheating/adultery was a little too cut and dried. I have found that some situations are not so simple. Otherwise, I would recommend it to any woman who has ever wasted an afternoon waiting for that guy to call, but he never does. You know who you are. Don't waste the pretty.

I finally got it! My ex boyfriends just weren't that into me. I wish this book was written ten years ago, wow, would I have saved myself a lot of unwanted heartache. It's very simple ladies: if he doesn't call, he's always away on business, he's rude, he doesn't give up his other women, or he seems to only call when he wants sex, guess what "He's Just Not That Into You!"

This is my new dating Bible, this book along with The Rules is the perfect self help combo pack. I can now easily weed out the dating wheat from the dating chaff, much earlier than before. The author Greg Behrendt was one of the writers on Sex In The City and he's a stand up comic. So the book is informative and a fun read. I laughed out loud more than once. A few of the examples sent in by the women are so sad and downright degrading, that it made me feel like a dating genious. A must have for every single woman.

The book: He's Just Not That into You by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo is truly a fantastic book, one that I recommend to all women to read at least once. It is written in such a way that even if your life seems too busy to sit down to read a book, this is one you can pick up and read a page or two per sitting and get a lot out of it. The messages here are very useful, very helpful and very easy to understand. This book is filled with a lot of information with many tips and lessons. I really like this book because it answers so many questions. I wish this book were around many years ago. It sure would have helped to avoid much heartbreak. In my opinion it is worth 5-stars. Thank you for listening. Best Wishes. … Dreams-N-Treasures.