The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger (2004, Hardcover)

I bought this book thinking that it would provide some realistic advice about what a woman can do to improve her marital relationship with her husband. I hardly realized that Schlessinger would put 150% of the responsibility on the wife! The premise of "Dr" Laura's book is simple: Your husband's needs are important. Yours aren't. Your husband must be completely satisifed and happy at all times. You should not expect to be completely satisified and happy at all times since that makes you selfish. Your husband's criticism should be accepted graciously. You should never, however, criticize him. Take his advice appreciately. Do not give him advice. When it comes to sex, it's his show. He's the Director, you're just an actor. Sex is for him, when he wants it, if he wants it, as he wants it. Your sexual needs or desire are not, nor should they ever be, considerations on his part. If you have kids, you have him to thank. When it comes to their care, the kids are yours. When it comes to their accomplishments, the kids are his. You must lavish constant compliments upon him for every thing he does. You must show your undying devotion and appreciation by keeping your mouth shut when he disappoints you, going to events that you don't enjoy, and by entertaining his friends that you don't like. He, on the other hand, can forget your anniversary, your birthday or what time to pick you up from an appointment. If he doesn't surprise you with flowers, don't be sad. Remember, he mowed the lawn for you...that's recognition enough. If he cheats on you or beats you, it's your fault. You had it coming because you either married a jerk to begin with or you failed to be completely submissive to his every whim and desire.

Get real. Schlessinger isn't even a "Dr"; psychiatrist or psychologist. Her own marriage is the result of an adulterous affair. Her kid bears HER last name, not her husband's. Her husband manages her business and he does all the cooking at home.

If you're going to take advice from someone, at least take it from someone who walks the walk when they talk the talk. Better, take it from someone who has something positive to say about the wife's contribution to the marriage. Schlessinger's book gives women plenty of reasons to stay single. Worse yet, she portrays men as selfish, self centered, instinct driven, brainless morons. Most of us know better. Way better.....

"The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" is THE best book for learning how to be a great wife. Your husband will thank you for reading this! They say nothing is perfect...well, with a little help from Dr. Laura, your marriage could be! I read it twice in the beginning of my marriage (and need to read it again) and I feel it attributed to why I have such an awesome marriage!! Dr. Laura explains how to love your husband with God's love and how to give him the things he needs. In turn, he is fulfilled, and can give you the love you need! How great is that! My husband is so grateful that I read this book; I am so thankful a friend recommended it. A word of caution: this book is NOT for the faint of heart. If you really want a good marriage, and are willing to work for it, THIS book will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. (Not kidding, it will change you, and for the better!) I feel if more women read this book, our divorce rate would plummet, marriage would be happier, and lives would be richer. I really cannot say enough about this book. I have given it to all my married friends as wedding presents, and can only hope that they will pick it up and read it, for what is inside is truly wonderful. Please consider reading this book. If you only read one book about marriage, please read Dr. Laura's. It WILL make a difference. Our husbands need to feel loved and need us to support them. When they are loved, they open up to us, talk to us, love us, and are more willing to give foot rubs! :) This book is 100% awesome and amazing. You will be blessed for reading it.

Dr. Laura is right. Men are simple creatures. Women are complex. This book will show you how to work your God given femininity into the life every woman wants. Before you read this book take time to be honest with yourself. Be open to your own short comings an you will see a happy married life is easier than you thought. This is not a female bashing book, like many have tried to label it. It is a female empowering book.
Women's equality issues should not enter a marriage. That competition only breaks down the unity. I know, I brought this to my marriages ( I have been married to my husband twice). The second time around, I chose to treat him as a husband instead of an enemy combatant. Its amazing how well Dr. Laura lessons work.
Take your, you did me wrong here and here and here list, throw it away, read this book, practice it and watch your lives bloom!
Also buy the Proper care of wives for him.

I first wanted to burn the book then, tell the author how I felt about the book. As I continued to plow through the book I realized the unintentional damage I was doing to my spouse, self and family. What an I opener, since reading this I'm now reading it a second time with my spouse to help understand how he personal sees it, with the help of Dr. Laura. I have to commend Dr. Laura for standing up and telling the world how it is and how us women need to get off our high horse and get a life full of joy and laughter. This book has brought a change in my marriage and life for the better. This is a book I will continue to read until I can completely rid mylife or the false garbage the world feeds us about our men.

I love this book.. Finally a women telling women to take responsibility for the state of their marriages. It can be a hard hitting book to read, but it does hit at the heart of the home and that with us women.. It doesn't make us homemakers out to be powerless and weak women but rather, identifies that we have lost our pride in the home and that we determine how our home operates. Its a real eye opener without really revealing any secrets, just common sense that has been lost and values like. respect and friendship, care and kindness at home.. One of my favorite points she makes is that we often treat guests in our homes better than we treat our husbands,, a simple truth.. these are the men that leave the homes and slay dragons for us and we don't give them the same courtesy as a guest in our home.

A absolute must for any married couple..