Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Bancroft

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9780425191651
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Publisher
Penguin Publishing Group
ISBN-10
0425191656
ISBN-13
9780425191651
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Book Title
Why Does He Do That? : inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Number of Pages
448 Pages
Language
English
Publication Year
2003
Topic
Abuse / Domestic Partner Abuse, Abuse / General, Abuse, Violence & Harassment
Genre
Family & Relationships, Self-Help, Education
Author
Lundy Bancroft
Format
Uk-B Format Paperback

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0.9 in
Item Weight
14.4 Oz
Item Length
9 in
Item Width
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Praise for Lundy Bancroft and Why Does He Do That? "Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships."--Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less "Most books about abuse in relationships focus on women--how they're hurt, why they stay. As important as these questions are, they can also distract us from the heart of the problem. Bancroft boldly asks--and brilliantly answers--the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue."--Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity "This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike...Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft's book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families."-- Publishers Weekly "Bancroft, a former codirector of Emerge, the first U.S. program for abusive men, and a 15-year veteran of work with abusive men, reminds readers that each year in this country, two to four million women are assaulted by their partners and that at least one out of three American women will be a victim of violence by a husband or boyfriend at some point in her life. His valuable resource covers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, the abusive mentality, problems with getting help from the legal system, and the long, complex process of change...This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended."-- Library Journal, "Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships."--Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less "Most books about abuse in relationships focus on women--how they're hurt, why they stay. As important as these questions are, they can also distract us from the heart of the problem. Bancroft boldly asks--and brilliantly answers--the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue."--Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity "This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike...Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft's book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families."-- Publishers Weekly   "Bancroft, a former codirector of Emerge, the first U.S. program for abusive men, and a 15-year veteran of work with abusive men, reminds readers that each year in this country, two to four million women are assaulted by their partners and that at least one out of three American women will be a victim of violence by a husband or boyfriend at some point in her life. His valuable resource covers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, the abusive mentality, problems with getting help from the legal system, and the long, complex process of change...This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended."-- Library Journal
Dewey Edition
22
Grade From
Twelfth Grade
Dewey Decimal
362.82920973
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UP
Table Of Content
Why Does He Do That? Acknowledgments Note on Terminology Introduction Part I: The Nature of Abusive Thinking 1. The Mystery 2. The Mythology 3. The Abusive Mentality 4. The Types of Abusive Men Part II: The Abusive Man in Relationships 5. How Abuse Begins 6. The Abusive Man in Everyday Life 7. Abusive Men and Sex 8. Abusive Men and Addiction 9. The Abusive Man and Breaking Up Part III: The Abusive Man in the World 10. Abusive Men as Parents 11. Abusive Men and Their Allies 12. The Abusive Man and the Legal System Part IV: Changing the Abusive Man 13. The Making of an Abusive Man 14. The Process of Change 15. Creating an Abuse-Free World Resources Index
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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft-a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men-uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about- .The early warning signs of abuse . The nature of abusive thinking .Myths about abusers .Ten abusive personality types .The role of drugs and alcohol .What you can fix, and what you can't .And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely "This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives."-Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health, In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft--a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men--uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men--and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: - The early warning signs of abuse - The nature of abusive thinking - Myths about abusers - Ten abusive personality types - The role of drugs and alcohol - What you can fix, and what you can't - And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely "This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives."--Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
LC Classification Number
HV6626.2.B255 2003

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  • by tabbycat1970
    Feb 06, 2017Top favourable review

    Perfection And Knowledge At It's Best!

    Love the book. It covers Everything! You can really understand the mind of an abuser and why he thinks and acts like he does. If you are living with an abuser, be prepared for a strong dose of reality. This book will make you realize just how disturbing his or her behavior is. It will make you notice just how immune to their behavior that you get. I was reading this and looking at my husband but not in the same way I use to look at him. There is no excuse for their behavior. Some of us go through far worst things in our lives then they do and we don't choose to treat people that way. It's really an excellent read and an eye opener. I hope if you choose to stay or leave, you find some kind of peace.

    Verified purchase: YesCondition: NewSold by: thehoneyroastedpeanut

  • by bigedeluxe
    Mar 01, 2018

    Making sense of craziness

    This book is so informative, it opened my eyes to the truth and made sense of a lot of craziness that was happening in my life. It's so catchy too, once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down. I highly recommended.

    Verified purchase: YesCondition: Pre-OwnedSold by: goodwillbks

  • by markdavidsmom
    Sep 26, 2018

    A MUST READ

    This book had such great insight. This author really understands angry and/abusive/moody men. Reading this book was a wake up call for me. As a wife, I was in denial about just how severe the abuse was in my marriage. This book made me see my husband without the blinders on.

    Verified purchase: YesCondition: Pre-OwnedSold by: mtwyouth

  • by hoomee126
    Aug 14, 2018

    Very Informative

    Easy to read format. I liked that I could skip to the sections that pertained to my particular situation, rather than reading the entire narrative, hoping to see something I could identify with. The author really knows her subject, and presents it easily understood language.

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  • by musclesurfing
    Jan 13, 2022

    Eye opening

    My counselor and Domestic abuse hotline recommended this book, and it made me realize my bf at the time is an abuser. I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't read this. He fell into 3 categories out of 10 different types of abusers!

    Verified purchase: YesCondition: Pre-OwnedSold by: second.sale

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