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Product Identifiers
Publisher
Touchstone
ISBN-10
0684841991
ISBN-13
9780684841991
eBay Product ID (ePID)
837065
Product Key Features
Book Title
Compassion and Self Hate : an Alternative to Despair
Number of Pages
288 Pages
Language
English
Topic
Philanthropy & Charity, Emotions, Personal Growth / Success
Publication Year
1998
Genre
Social Science, Self-Help, Psychology
Format
Trade Paperback
Dimensions
Item Height
0.7 in
Item Weight
9.3 Oz
Item Length
8.2 in
Item Width
5.5 in
Additional Product Features
Intended Audience
Trade
Dewey Decimal
155.2
Table Of Content
Acknowledgements PART I: AN ALTERNATIVE TO DESPAIR PART II: SELF-HATE Self-Hate in Process How Self-Hate Begins How Self-Hate Is Sustained Consciousness and Unconsciousness in Self-Hate Forms of Self-Hate: Direct Self-Derision Self-Derisive Fantasies Self-Vindictive Criticism Self-Diminution Terrorism Depression Suicide Accident Proneness, Psychosomatic Illness and Dangerous Situations Alcohol, Drugs, Tobacco and Food Use of Painful Memories and Lists of Crimes and Indiscretions Use of Other People Murder Guilt Anticipation and Excessive Inappropriate Worrying Competition and Perfectionism Gambling Postponing Decisions Cheating Oneself of Pleasure Hating Oneself for Hating Oneself Forms of Self-Hate: Indirect Illusions Illusions Involving Self Illusions involving Self and Other People Illusions Involving Self and the Human Condition The Grand Illusion Impossible Standards, Unrealistic Goals, Exorbitant Expectations Boredom Polarization and Superlatives Self-Hate as a Way of Life PART III: COMPASSION Compassion in Process Origins of Compassion Generating Compassion Forms of Compassion: The Direct Way Forms of Compassion: The Indirect Way Destroying illusions Lowering Standards, Limiting Goals and Reducing Expectations The Move Against Boredom Compassionate Shades of Gray Compassionate Psychophilosophy Compassion as a Way of Life I Am Because I Am! I Am I I Need, I Want, I Choose I Am Where I Am Be Here Now! The Process Is the Product I Always Do My Best Contracts, Consistency, Congruity No Participation and Performance The Right to Die and the Right to Live Helping to Prevent Self-Destruction Life Is Tough PART IV: ON HUMAN TERMS The Destructive Culture People, Animals and Ants Cowardice, Bravery, Courage and Fear Arrogance, Jealousy, Envy, Paranoia and Generosity, Honesty, Openness and Trust Prejudice Winning, Losing, Striving and Resignation Competition, Equality and Fair Play Being Cheated, Helplessness, Dependency and Rejection Recognition Opportunism Acquisitiveness Millionaires Betrayal Snobbism Sadism and Masochism Fools Logic, Rationale and Feelings Moods Anger Sadness Optimism and Pessimism Dreams and Fantasies Security and Happiness Ideal, Pure, Absolute and Perfect Endurance, Toughness, Fragility Indebtedness Subservience and Passivity Affability and Charm Self-Control, Restlessness, Anxiety and Insomnia Humility Types and Categories Maturity Conforming, Popularity, Mastery and Individuality Involvement and Detachment Reserve and Gregariousness Privacy Temptation and Curiosity Healthy Narcissism Uniqueness and Eccentricity Poets and Artists Abilities Pride and Greatness Problems, Limitations and Compassion Health, Sickness, Pain, Frustration and Patience Aging Surrender and Respite Convalescence Social Roles and Relationships Friendship Sex Homosexuality and Sexual Purity Battle of the Sexes Love and Marriage Parenthood Dependency on Children Status Quo and Change Work Knowledge and Study Pleasure and Seriousness Decisions Pain and Pain-Killers Alcohol and Tobacco Politicians and Leaders Justice New Beginnings and Continuums The Great Rehearsal Chance and Circumstances Adaptation, Accommodation, Adjustment, Growth and Evolvement Crisis and Disaster Joy Joy: The Reason for Living Joy: Prejudices Against Joy Joy: The Mood and Philosophy Index
Synopsis
Free yourself from destructive behavior and learn how to break your patterns of self-hate and achieve personal fulfillment with this sympathetic and practical guide from the author of The Angry Book . Many of us know that self-destructive patterns are rooted in self-dislike, but few of us understand how to break them. In this wise and compassionate book, bestselling author and eminent psychiatrist Theodore Rubin shows us realistic ways to break these negative mental and emotional attitudes and build a strong sense of well-being and self-understanding. Dr. Rubin looks of how self-hate begins, is sustained, and eventually leads to destructive and defeating behavior--from alcoholism and drug dependency to perfectionism and fear of failure (or success). Offering practical and reassuring advice, he shows that the key to freeing yourself from these restricting emotions and habits is to find and examine the self-hate that generates them, and then to release your innate and powerful capacity for compassion. This warm, sympathetic, and ultimately practical guide to personal growth and fulfillment is timelier and more helpful than ever.
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- r***r (2958)- Feedback left by buyer.Past 6 monthsVerified purchaseBook arrived today, 2 days before deadline given by the seller. Well-packaged & in good condition. Price was very competitive, & the book was accurately listed. Great communication. I appreciate the seller getting back to me when I was having trouble tracking the book's delivery progress. Apparently there were 2 different tracking numbers - one in Canada & the other in the U.S., since it was initially shipped from Canada. Thank you very much for your quick response & helpful information.Rethinking Investing: A Very Short Guide to Very Long-Term Investing by Charles (#396183075510)
- e***_ (13)- Feedback left by buyer.Past 6 monthsVerified purchaseSeller handles a massive inventory so I give them grace on the slow processing and shipping. They were very communicative and prompt with their response when I messaged in asking about it. Book was in good condition as described. Small ding on the page edges which wasn't mentioned, but that's fairly common even at your typical book store. Still a good value and I'd buy from them again.
- 0***i (4)- Feedback left by buyer.Past monthVerified purchaseThe first item arrived with some damage to the inside back cover, but the seller responded immediately, assuring me they’d provide a replacement, and even told me I could keep the original. They were upfront about a short delay, and gave a clear estimated ship date, and followed up right on time once it shipped. The replacement arrived in perfect condition and exactly as described. I really appreciated their transparency and professionalism. Would definitely buy from them again!